Support Local: Interview with Sleepy Miracles!
Having some troubles with sleep training? We got you! Here are some tips and tricks from the expert! Hope you enjoy!
Tell us about yourself
Hi! I’m Maria Escola. I’m a mom, a wife and a Certified Gentle Sleep Coach and Certified Baby & Child Sleep Consultant based in Langley, BC. I work with parents helping their families sleep well again. I experienced sleep deprivation first hand. It was really tough for me to be a good mom, wife and friend when I was so tired. After my son’s sleep transformation, I became very passionate about helping other moms and babies sleep well. I truly believe that parents enjoy parenthood, even more, when they are well rested.
What is a sleep consultant and what do you do?
As a Certified Baby & Child Sleep Consultant, my passion is to help families find restful nights. When parents are sleep deprived life and parenting are harder! I meet with the parents and we create a step-by-step plan together to gradually start implanting changes in their little one’s sleep routine. During the process, my job is to support and guide parents every step of the way. I work with my clients for at least 3 weeks to give their children time to learn good and healthy sleep habits.
What is your sleep philosophy?
The goal of my gentle sleep philosophy is to protect the parent-child attachment. Babies need their parents’ support and love during the learning time, exactly as they need them when they are achieving new milestones or learning new things. And parents want to respond to their babies and know that they are not abandoning them. This is completely normal and is the foundation of my gentle sleep philosophy. I do not use the cry- it- out method and I’d never recommended stopping feeding or responding to a baby. I do not believe that letting the children cry for hours and hours is teaching them something. My work respects the beautiful bond and trust formed between parents and their child.
How did you start in this profession?
When my second baby was born, he decided that sleep was not his priority! It was a very hard time for me as a mom and wife. I started feeling depressed and lost not knowing what I was doing wrong. Once I was able to help my baby sleep better, I was able to be the person and mom I wanted to be. I was happy, rested and joyful again, and so was my baby! It was the best thing I could have done for my family. I realized that motherhood and sleep deprivation don’t necessarily go hand in hand and my passion to help other moms began.
Why is it important to help a baby learn good sleep habits?
Every baby is different and every family sleep situation should be fully assessed before parents start teaching sleep skills to their children. Once babies have the opportunity to learn self-settling skills, their sleep habits improve and they start sleeping better. This has many benefits not only for the little ones (baby is well rested, happier, usually eats better) but also for the parents. By teaching independent sleep skills, parents ensure that their children are getting the amount of sleep they need to wake up happy and well rested.
What is the process of working with you like? How does it work? What can people expect? I work with the parents for about 3 or 4 weeks depending on their initial sleep situation. The process starts with the parents filling out a client intake form. We then do a consultation during which we create a personalized plan together. This is very important because parents need to feel comfortable with their sleep plan. Once they start implementing their plan, I follow up with them every day and make adjustments to their plan as needed. It is really teamwork! During the process, the sleep transformation occurs. Babies start sleeping better and therefore the whole family get more rest.
How long does sleep training usually take? It really depends on the case and how committed the parents are to make changes. Since my approach to sleep coaching is more gentle, and I like to introduce changes gradually, it usually takes a few weeks to work on night and day sleep. Naps can take a bit longer to get organized but after three weeks most babies are doing great and parents see a huge difference in their sleep.
When can parents start sleep coaching? The best age to start sleep teaching is around the 6-month old mark. Most babies are physically and cognitively ready to learn self-settling skills by this age. For this reason, the process tends to be easier and less frustrating for both—baby and parents. Some parents are ready to start gently shaping their baby’s sleep habits earlier, and that is okay as long as they work with a sleep consultant with specific training in that age range. Also, I recommend that before starting any sleep teaching process, parents ask their paediatrician if their child is ready.
What are some tips to help children sleep well?
There are some easy things parents can do to help their little one sleep well.
- Choose an early bedtime.The best time to put a baby or toddler to bed is sometime between 6 and 8 o’clock in the evening. This ensures that their children will be able to get a solid night of sleep.
- Create a predictable bedtime routine. Consistency and predictability are really important to babies and toddlers. When they know what to expect at bedtime, it makes it much easier for them to make the transition from waking to sleeping.
- Spend some “special times” with your child. A few times during the day, go to your child’s room and have fun with him! Play, laugh, make eye contact and cuddle him! Making sure that your little one’s emotional tank is full by the end of the day will help them feel loved and connected. Children and toddlers in particular need that parent-child connection to be able to sleep better at night.
If you had to give sleepless parents a word of encouragement or support, what would you tell them?
I would like them to know that they are not alone! Sleep is one of the most common concerns for parents. The good news is that there is hope! Babies and small children can learn good sleep habits and become great sleepers! I’d recommend that they reach out for help if they have realized that their current sleep situation is no longer working for their families. With a good holistic sleep plan, every piece of the sleep puzzle can be put in its place, and when that happens, parents and babies start sleeping.
Maria Escola, Certified Baby and Child Sleep Consultant and Certified Gentle Sleep Coach, has been working with families all over the world as an infant and toddler sleep consultant since 2011. Have any baby sleep questions for Maria? She can be contacted through her website www.sleepymiracles.com or by phone at 604.788-3044
Spring is here, and everyone is talking about the famous spring cleaning. They talk about how are they are going to clean their homes, their closets, but myself, the only thing I think I need is to clean my mind.
A month ago, I experimented something that I wasn’t sure what it was, until I read this article on https://www.thisisbrave.org about Keisha’s story: Postpartum Anxiety ( PPA).
At the beginning, I didn’t think it was that, as my baby is already 11 months old and I always thought this type of things happened right after having your baby, but then the more I read the more I was feeling identified.
Everything started one day..while I was trying to be a superwoman and multi-task doing my full-time job and being a stay home mom.
Mia was miss behaving so I gave her time off. I was with my baby watching tv so it was time for me to go and check on Mia, so when I put Matias on the bed, he started crying so bad because he wanted to be hold, that he held his breath too long, and I was on the other room talking to Mia, but my mom’s brain was listening to him on the back and I didn’t listen to his cry so I panic, ran into the room and he was turning blue.
I took him, blow on his face and he finally breathe. I cannot describe exactly how did I feel in that moment, the only thing I know is that I was terrified, shaking, feeling alone, feeling like a failure, desperate, and many things more.I calm him down, I try to calm down myself but after that moment.. everything change.
I was/am like a slave! Every time he cries, I panic. And not only that, but I became obsessed that something is going to happen to them. If Matias would be playing with my purse, all of these horrible disturbing thoughts of possible scenes of what can happen to him come to my mind. If Mia is sick, I think she is turning blue and I tell my husband to look at her skin, and I cannot stop checking on her over and over.
I can’t just quiet my mind, it is like a battle, to the point that I feel out of breath, I get panic attacks. There are not the normal mama thoughts tho, the ones that when you read something on the internet and then you are like.. oh maybe my baby has that.. This is something more deep.. something I’ve never had before.
I remember that day, I went to the garage before going to pick up my husband, and I had these thoughts that I wanted to leave, to be far from my kids because I was scared that something would happen to them.
I get stress and very anxious about everything and anything. There thousands of questions at the same time in my mind.. Why is Mia crying? Is she happy? Should we move to Mexico? Maybe is the daycare? Maybe are the teachers? And on and on and on.
I get super stress if the house gets dirty because I’m afraid Matias would put something in his mouth, and at the same time I’m stress because I can’t just maintain the house clean with the 2 kids and no help.
If you follow me on Instagram, you know I went to this trip to Mexico with my Family, and I have to say, that it helped me a LOT! I have fewer panic attacks, but again, is a daily battle. When is going to end? I don’t know. But what I do know for sure, is that my Spring cleaning is going to be a focus on my mind.
For more information: https://www.parents.com/parenting/moms/healthy-mom/the-other-postpartum-problem-anxiety/
Matias Spring Closet
Morning loves! It is a long weekend..which means.. I have time to write! Even tho I’ve been super busy, I keep adding more stuff for ilove604 and I’m so excited for what is coming!!
As you know, we went for a little trip to Mexico, so I HAD to go shopping for spring/summer clothes for the kids and myself ( yes, because sometimes, just sometimes, I’ll remember to buy something for me lol! ) so get your coffee cups, that today I’m sharing Matias closet for those boy’s mom’s out there!
1-Bamboo Long Sleeve Hoodie Coverall BabyOutfitters
I’m Obsessed with their clothes collection! When they sent us samples of their beautiful store, I totally fell in love with every single piece! They are stylish, their fabric’s are incredibly soft, and the best part? Matias has very sensitive skin, so Bamboo is well known for no irritate the skin. Another plus? they are LOCAL! made in Vancouver! Yasss! You can find these beautiful rompers here: Earthbabyoutfitters
2- Carters 3 piece shirt
I have Carter’s store 5 min from my home, so sometimes it’s just so easy to stop by and fill out their closet there lol! I love this little set and right now is only $9.97!!! Carters
3- Whistle and flute Taco Shirt
When I saw this taco shirt, I know I had to have one! I love their designs because they are gender neutral, it is very difficult to find matching outfits for him and Mia! This was the perfect shirt for our little trip! You can find one in here: Taco shirt
4- Joe fortes summer romper
Love Joe Fresh!! They have such a cute baby boy collection, this is a recycle for one of my friend’s, so I don’t think this is going to be available in the stores anymore lol! But check their sites, sometimes I see big stores coming with the same designs every year LOL!! Joe Fresh
5- Organic Cotton Long Sleeve Pullover
This is the perfect sweeter for those spring\camping chilly night! It is fun, cool and hip! If you are into organic cotton you can find yours here: Earth Baby Outfitters
What is in your baby’s boy closet?
Happy Long weekend everyone!!
MIA’S PAW PATROL PA